I was just listening to a This American Life podcast (don’t worry Canada, I listened to As It Happens last night on CBC Radio 1, so I’m keeping the Canadian content up).  The theme of the podcast was “the Sanctity of Marriage”, and the whole show was examining marriage and marriage-like relationships.  One of the most interesting segments involved a scientific researcher who has been studying the correlation between arguments, disagreements, and fights that married couples have to their chances of staying together or getting divorced.  He uses video cameras and heart-rate monitors to help him and his team observe the couples, and they follow them over an extended period of time, often many years.  The findings are very interesting, and there’s even some surprising (or rather, confirming!) information about gay and lesbian couples that stick it out!  So give it a listen!

how straight of us!

April 28, 2008

A recent article entitled Young Gay Rites in the New York Times Magazine explores gay marriage and the phenomenon of young gay men settling down together in the hetero-tradition of married life. The article seems to (at least subconsciously) pose the (rhetorical) question: Are the gays going straight?

The article comes at a pertinent time for me, as I’ve recently been exploring the issue of queer identity through my own long-term relationship with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for over eight years now, and though we are not officially “married”, we do lead a lifestyle that is effectively as committed and codependent as if we were.

This is short video I made at the Emily Carr Institute (where I am currently a third-year Film/Video/Media Arts major), exploring the ideas of commitment and difference: